Sunday, December 18, 2011

Taking time...


"The wind against my face and hair,
The sun against the skin I wear,
To feel its rays so bold and bright,
I know that now my life is right..."
- Alethea Dalton

“Please come by our shop 30 minutes prior to your tour…like a flight if you’re too late you will miss your tour.”

We got there early for two reasons, one because of the preceding notice received in the email and because there was no place to park by the tour shop…this meant we would need to cruise the neighborhoods to find a place for the car.

Not always what you think…
It’s sometimes funny when two people having a conversation both think they understand each other, but in fact do not.

It began with a call with my wife, while I was traveling on business a couple of months ago.  We knew our niece Mariah would be coming for a visit at the end of her exams in December, and Molly wondered whether she (Mariah) and I might like to go on a whale watching tour.

After moving to San Diego, we had done this on a tour boat.  It took us 13 miles (24km) off shore to see some Blue Whales migrating north from Mexico to the Northern Pacific feeding grounds.  On that trip, the water had been a little rough and Molly got a bit seasick…so, it seemed reasonable she would pass on this adventure.

I said, “Sure, that would be fun,” and the deal was made.  As happens from time to time, I did not hear all of the words.  Somehow the word ‘kayak’ didn’t register, and as the date approached I realized this would not be a tour boat, but kayaks heading out from the coastal shoreline of La Jolla (La Hoya) about 20 miles (32km) north of our home in San Diego.

Kayak – WHAT??!! 

Early training…
As a youngster, I spent my summers on lakes in the Muskoka region of Central Ontario, Canada.  My mother had been a camp counselor for many years before marrying my father.  She made sure her children learned to love the water, but also have a healthy respect for its potential dangers.  We had to swim certain distances before we were permitted in boats, and further distances before getting in boats alone.  Water play brought great fun, but there were rules.

Canoes and rowboats were part and parcel of our summer lives.  We had a motorboat and some water skis, but my favorite was always the canoe.  A canoe on flat-water lakes can be magical…kayaks on the ocean – uh, I had no idea!

A little preparation…
Not wanting to appear completely uninformed, it seemed reasonable to take a kayaking lesson before the event.  So about three weeks prior, I headed to a local kayak shop, got into a wetsuit; then spent two hours learning paddle strokes and how to get back in the kayak if for some reason I fell out. 

The instructor was great and the lesson turned out to be much more fun than expected.  In fact, aside from a paddle with blades on both ends of the shaft, and a little less stability than a canoe, things seemed pretty natural…well, that would be until I slipped into the water to practice getting back in the kayak. I’ve lived in San Diego a few years, come here for decades, and been in a number of oceans on this planet, but this was my first time in California coastal waters. In case you have any misconception, the waters of the Southern California coast are ICE COLD!  Point of fact, they are in the high 50s  (14-15C)…they just feel freezing!

Named for the wind…

Mariah flew in for her break and when the 'kayak day' arrived we dutifully got an early start so that we could find parking and not ‘…miss the plane...’  In the winter, Gray Whales come within a mile or so of the coastline as they migrate south to their warm water spawning grounds on the Baja Peninsula of Mexico.   This meant we would only need to paddle a mile or so out to be in their path.  In the summer, boats take the kayaks a fair distance offshore for the Blues heading north.  In the winter, for the Grays this would not be necessary.

We been great friends pretty much all of her life.  In 25 of those 28 years, I don’t remember having to carry a conversation even once.  We have one of those connections that don’t lend themselves to an easy explanation…just a familiar comfort and easy talk.

When she was young, we were around each other all the time.  I would occasionally take her with me on a business trip and we would try to do something special together.   In some ways, I took those occasions for granted, and then before I knew it, she grew up and wasn’t around as much.  It wasn’t planned…just the process of life – we moved away; she went on to university and graduate school and work and now medical school, and well, our time together less frequent…in truth I covet every minute.

Our relationship has few barriers, our sense of humor is similar…many of our interests follow similar paths, and where they don’t, we find ways to share our points of view.  While I have been, for many years, the older one with the broader life experience, her life pathway is on a rapid course and I am often amazed at the things she knows and what she teaches me.

In recent years with the events in her mother’s life and the rigors of medical school, her load has been remarkably heavy.  Coming to Southern California for a few days would help recharge her batteries, AND Molly and I are great at ‘…love bombing…’

False start…
We got to the shop, slipped into our wetsuits, and headed to the beach with the other six hearty souls.  It turned out the weather did not cooperate, the water was not safe and the adventure was cancelled.  We crossed our fingers and decided to return the following day.

The next day was perfect…all hands on deck – well, at least two souls in a kayak – the adventure was on! 

 
The kayaking took place on the La Jolla Ecological Reserve.  While we were on top of the water, underneath is nearly 6,000 acres (2,428 hectares) of an underwater marine reserve with kelp beds and underwater canyons between 600 and 1000 feet (183 and 305m) deep.  Reefs keep the water relatively calm, and chillier winter temperatures bring dolphins and other sea life closer to shore.  It is also the reason whales come so close to shore in the winter, and the reason we had come!

In the first instance, we did not see any whales.  Having said that, there wasn’t much else we did not.  A nearby school of dolphin entertained us.  They had a baby with them and our guide explained the pod would be careful to protect it from anything potentially harmful…even us!  There were leopard sharks beneath, sea lions and seals in the water and along the shores. 

Hundreds and hundreds of Cormorants (birds) nested along the cliffs.  They flew toward the sheer vertical walls at break-neck speeds, like an aircraft on final approach to the runway.  At the last minute they would flare up and land on what appeared to be a tiny perch where they had built their nests.  It seemed a miracle they could find their address!

After two hours, we headed back to shore and to see whether we could get through the surf without capsizing.  Mariah and I caught a wave just right and made it to the beach still inside the kayak – Success!

The music has to end…
In three days, Mariah’s break will have had its run and we will put her “…on a jet plane…” back to the snow and chill of Mid-Missouri.  In three days, the magic of our time together will be done.  In three days, once on the flight, we will long for her return.  

There are discussions about a fourth year rotation out here and a possible residency as well…yet we know her life is moving forward to the calling for which she was born, and while we are tightly connected, ultimately our times together will be fewer.  

“Time!” In life, other than love, what could be more precious?

 You see, the kayak adventure was just another excuse, another reason…as every hike, drive, trip, live theater, movie, pizza and time together over the years has been...an excuse for us to share a little proximity…an excuse to be able express the richness of love and care…

There is little doubt - in life and love, every moment counts!



- ted

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